“Feel free to have your way with whomever your partner is; but don’t hitch your cart to a horse headed into a ditch,” says Gail Vaz-Oxlade, money guru and author of .
“What you’re marrying is someone’s character and their financial behaviour is a reflection of their character.
He's cute, fun, smart and you can't stop thinking about him. These are signs that he will likely be very cheap throughout the duration of the relationship. There is a difference between loving sports and having a childish obsession with them. If he truly cares about you, his good behaviors will grow stronger. Anyone, regardless of gender, who asks for help paying bills early on in a relationship should raise red flags. By paying for him early on, you are setting the tone that it will be this way for your entire future. Some men with no ambition whatsoever like to talk up a good game, but at the end of the day, they are just saying what they know women want to hear. Some men may not like being tied down to a phone, but responding to your text messages or phone calls shouldn't be annoying; it's common courtesy and respect.
You're already three steps ahead of the game, mentally planning weddings, children and that giant house with the white picket fence. While many men may seem ideal after just a few weeks of dating, upon closer inspection, there can be warning signs that you should avoid a relationship with this person. Dating someone who refuses to do anything new makes for a long-term relationship that is both boring and one-sided. Those who back down and start getting lazier after having sex for the first time were probably only after one thing to begin with. There is nothing wrong with a guy who wants to grow into a better person, just make sure that he's genuine. The I'm-in-my-late-twenties-or-older-and-still-live-with-my-mother guy. In my book, living at home up until age 25 is acceptable, provided the guy was going through schooling or saving up money.
Dating websites such as e Harmony allow users to indicate whether they are spenders or savers in their profiles.
Credit Score (“where good credit scores are sexy”) asks members to provide credit scores for potential sweethearts.
Often times when this line is pulled, its code for "I'm looking for a marriage and kids, just not with you." Steer clear. But men who are constantly suggesting that they want to just stay in and watch a movie early on in the dating game are likely the lazy type, or only out for sex. "Either way he's giving you a preview of how he will treat you when the novelty wears off," says money expert Margie Baldock, author of 1. Coffee dates are fine for first dates, but after that, if he can't invest more than a dollar or two, it might be time to question how much he values your company."Nothing says I'm keeping our dates casual—and you in the friend zone—more than repetitive coffee dates," says author and columnist Dave Singleton.You can always do the "wallet grab" when the check comes, but most non-dollar-counting dates will refuse your offer to "go Dutch."4. But on a first date, it's important to give a good first impression. Unless he's sober (in which case, he's thankfully staying on the wagon), this one can be a cheapskate tip-off since alcohol bills add up."I'm all for Living Social and other discount couponing, but if you want to be —a new term I'm coining for singles who exhibit appropriate date behavior—then save your frugal joy for later," says Singleton. "He ought to know that he will appear much more attractive after have had a drink or two," says Baldock.See also: 10 Dating Rules for People Who Hate Dating3. There's nothing worse than a guy who invites you out and springs the "women's equality" argument when it's time to pay.